In Chile dating is called "Pololeando" mi "polola" is girlfriend "pololo" and its a dictionary about Chilean spanish and also customs saved my. They will often be the first to tell you that their Spanish is far different from what is spoken in .. Cultural Information - Relationship-building.
Marina K. Villatoro May 17, at 5: With your experience there, are there many multicultural families and kids? We are still far off from the move, but I will be asking you questions for you sure: Reply Rob W.
May 18, at Then again, they HAVE been brought up with the local language and culture. Reply Steph May 18, at 7: So much more interesting and rewarding than being in a relationship with someone from your own culture where everything is the same, I think… Rob W. I have added your blog to my reader. Rob W. August 10, at 1: Saludos Reply Stephanie Shipp October 13, at 4: Anyways, I want to marry him in December when I go back to visit, but we both still have about 2 years of undergraduate college to finish in our respective countries before he can move to USA.
We both want to start a life here. Sorry if I sound stupid I just have no idea! Let me know please Reply Stephanie Shipp October 13, at 4: October 13, at 8: Just so you know there are usually two weddings in Chile, the typical church wedding which is normally catholic so you need to have you religious papers in order, being baptized etc , and the civil registry wedding which is the official before-the-eyes-of-the-law wedding.
From memory you must have the civil wedding before the church will allow you their religious one. Would that mean you would be newlyweds though living in separate countries? Hope it works out for you. Let us know. Saludos, Reply Nicky November 21, at 2: We have been talking and gazing at each other for 6 months on Skype and I mean talking about every topic in the world. I know what you may be thinking, but we are fully aware of everything. I have met his mother, daughter, friends and students on Skype.
He is a translator and has an English Lang Academy where he teaches English. I am also a teacher here in Wellington, one of my jobs is teaching Eng as a second language.
He has met my mother, my boys and some of my friends on Skype. I have travelled the world for 3 years, so am familiar with different cultures etc. My spanish is virtually non-existent and his english is perfect! What do you think our main differences are going to be? Thanks very much for you input!!! Nicky Reply catalina October 23, at 5: I wanted to do the typical 6 month kiwifruit working and 6 month of travelling to Asia. Well obviously didnt happened that way I did the travel to asia!!
Since then I have been living in NZ for almost 3 years now. So I thought!! We are coming to chile for christmas and would be great if we can go for a beer and meet you guys! October 29, at Let me know when you are both in town so we can have a drink. Montserrat December 22, at In the Netherlands. I usually say: The plans are: Best wishes, hugs and kisses to you and your family -the not extended one-. Have a very happy Christmas. We are going for the trilingual kids…and of course, he said that that will be my job..
December 22, at In the end I knew that it meant anyone that was had lighter hair or skin. Yes, interesting how hitting things often does make them work again.
It would be interesting to read about your experiences living there. Reply Patrick December 25, at 3: Me and my gf really enjoyed your blog. But I already know a bit of spanish enough to get by. Anyway pm me if you like, my email is — removed -.
January 9, at 5: January 9, at 6: It was part of an amnesty thingy they had years ago where all foreigners who had been in the country more than a year or so either doing the border run or just staying illegally could apply for residency.
I recommend it, mainly for the invites that you sometimes get and in case anything happens major earthquakes, zombie attacks etc. Saludos, Reply William February 21, at I own 2 derechos but he wants to take over. So if it comes down to the wire I think I will need more standing in the country. I live outside of Santiago south about 30k. Post me more of your blogs if you want.
February 27, at Nine dogs and a kitten… that sounds like fun. I miss having a dog though living in a showbox Reply Michael February 25, at Thanks for sharing your story. I suppose it will be for another time.
There is often a greater need for communication about topics which are taken for granted when you share the same cultural background. It is important to learn about the culture of your significant other, and to make sure you talk about things like: How are gender roles different in your respective cultures?
How are children raised? What is the role of extended family? What are politics like? Which values are most important in your respective cultures? And most importantly, how does your significant other feel about these aspects of their culture? After all, we do not adhere to everything our culture dictates. As practicing Catholics, Juan and I find that our values and worldview are often profoundly countercultural in the both the United States and Chile.
Communication, as in any relationship, is very important. Hopefully an engaged couple shares the same values of faith and family. When little issues do arise, which can often stem from cultural differences, be willing to try and understand where your significant other is coming from and to know the difference between non-negotiable values and cultural preferences. And these little issues will arise. There are also other issues that we will need to discuss when we have children. In Chile, for example, babies are often not baptized until they are over one year old.
I prefer Baptism at a few months, as is typical in the U. Besides timeline difference like that, there are also often differences across in the types of educational systems. For example, when I first brought up the idea of potentially homeschooling, this was a completely foreign concept for Juan, as homeschooling is almost non-existent in Chile.
And of course there is a language issue. I am the only Spanish-speaker in my family and Juan is the only English-speaker in his, so it will be a priority for us to make sure our children speak both Spanish and English fluently.
How we go about doing that will surely be a topic of discussion down the road. When one person in a relationship is not just from another culture but is also an immigrant, or will be, this can add a new level of stress to the relationship. Juan and I are currently in the process of making decisions about where we are going to live and how and where we are going to pursue our careers while prioritizing our family. Sometimes I worry about Juan facing discrimination in the United States or my children not getting as good an education in Chile.
Decisions like these are stressful and incredibly complex, as they will have a tremendous impact on our future. Juan and I try to approach everything with as much openness and honesty as possible, as well as with a lot of prayer and discernment. While these decisions are very stressful, Juan and I have found that they also increase our intimacy as a couple, as they require a lot of in-depth and frank conversations about what we want out of life and how we believe we are called to live out our vocation.
The guy in the situation fully expects to pay for dates they go out alone as a couple on, or for anything he invites her to, but he questioned this habitual - you have to go to this friends special function, or this family members special function, and pay for both of our pricey meals.
The guy was struggling to keep up with these requests from the "polola", but then he became unemployed. She refuses to understand that he may have to support himself off any savings he may have until he gets another job. She seemed to take it personal that he is no longer in a position to afford to do this. And yes, she tells him this sudden lack of ability means he does not love her anymore. As you say about, 'America" and money, being envolved - maybe it is personal - as in a personal requirement of hers for him.
Its interesting to note that neither one of them is American she is Chilean - and telling him it is customary to accept her requests and to always pay for both of them even if he is a guest.
I dont know his nationality, but it is neither 'American" nor Chilean. She is in debt at her young age, and he has proven to be responsible with money. They might keep seeing each other, but "pololo" will not be receiving any invitations to her family events, if he is not paying. Thanks again for the reply. Very nice of you to share your knowledge and experience on the subject.