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Flirting on Instagram: Deep Thoughts on Deep Liking Is Insta-flirting the most noncommittal way to connect in the digital dating age? Oct 1, Courtesy of Anna Deutsch This year I found myself single for the first significant amount of time in my adult life. It's actually been an empowering experience, one I'm glad to be enjoying in the confidence of my late twenties rather than at years old.
Despite my occasional frustration with the market, I've thus far consciously avoided the world of online dating. Not that it hasn't worked for friends or isn't intriguing, I just prefer to meet people the old-fashioned way er, at a bar rather than by browsing some contrived profile. But wait: Not only do I browse contrived profiles on a daily basis, but I also actively engage in curating my own.
Like so many others, Instagram has become my main social media outlet—life's most attractive, clever, silly moments cropped and filtered. And whether intentional or not, it's a landmine for engaging with the opposite sex.
A few weeks ago, I spent an evening flirting with a super-cute bartender in Brooklyn. After many generous Gruner refills, we added each other on Instagram. When I got home later that night—his number written on a cocktail napkin in my purse—I checked my Instagram to find that Mr. Bartender had Deep Liked me. As in, he had taken the time to scroll back through at least most of my photos and "liked" a handful of my finest work—or more accurately, my finest selfies.
So I did what any interested girl would do and scrolled through his feed, too. While I only offered one Deep Like in return, I enjoyed the window into my new prospect. By the time we went on our first date a few days later, I already knew he enjoyed sailing, camping, and motorcycles. I'm sure I could assess the same from his OK Cupid profile. Deep Liking is, in fact, a common practice and among many new rituals that come with dating in a digital age.
In this case it wasn't creepy; it was flattering. I've also been Deep Liked in less charming circumstance though, like when a stranger likes pictures of me in a bikini from 15 weeks prior. Or, when my ex-boyfriend goes back and likes images from when we were together, and suddenly in the middle of a random Tuesday, he's made me think about him and that lovely time we had in Italy.
Instagram is the perfect platform for the casual nature of dating these days , especially in a place like New York. It has a wide pool; it's superficial, and it allows users maximum control of their engagement. You can be as voyeuristic and nosy as you want without consequence, and you can offer people a sliver of validation simply by tapping on a photo, no follow up necessary. Receiving Instagram likes can bring a on a fleeting smile or an eye-roll, but either way you don't dwell on it very long.
There may be hope for response, but there is no expectation. And both sides of the equation perform these tasks on their own turf and time frame. The control technology allows people means less obligation, which is probably why texting has replaced calling in the dating world. Flirting over Instagram is also unique because it's an entirely public forum with no private messaging. One friend told me she became irrationally jealous to learn that the guy she was seeing had Deep Liked several pictures of another cute girl after stumbling upon his activity on the "Following" feature Instagram offers.
With so many public accounts, it's also super-easy to fall down a rabbit hole of "investigation. Instagram certainly is a dangerous venue for anyone predisposed to jealousy, though Weiss notes that it is important to remember that Instagram doesn't cause obsessive behavior, it simply facilitates it.
Despite the general lack of privacy, many people I spoke to had either met someone through Instagram or used it as a tool for connecting romantically. In fact, a few months ago I discovered the profile of an adorable, L.
His pictures revealed that he was a Boston Terrier-loving hipster with a green thumb, and his full name was conveniently listed on his profile.
I didn't start following him or think much of it, until a few weeks later I noticed his name pop up on a friend's Facebook page. I told her about my crush, and moments later she had connected us saying, "My friend thinks you're cute.
Contact her if you're interested. It's no surprise that as the world has becomes increasingly digital, so has the art of seduction. Funnily enough, I can measure the start of my few longterm relationships based on the trending technology of the time. My college boyfriend introduced me to texting.
He was from Europe, where he they had been doing it for years, he said. I'll never forget seeing the words "I'm crazy about you" pop up on my Nokia screen as I lay in the top bunk of my freshman dorm room.
Facebook was integral to my next relationship. In we did international long distance, and I'm embarrassed to admit how many longwinded private messages and emo status updates there were.
I remember being quietly pleased when he would switch his profile picture to a shot of the two of us a public declaration! Now, here I am a few years later quietly enjoying likes from my crushes and sneakily scrolling through the feeds of romantic prospects, ex-boyfriends and randoms, and posting the occasional selfie that someone may Deep Like down the road.
All I know is that regardless of all Insta-flirting and filtered versions of boys, nothing replaces the thrill of hearing from a someone say—in person—that they "like" me, or telling them the same. I'll always prefer to meet a cute bartender at a bar, but that's just me.
Plus, the many features of Instagram — with stories, meme tagging, geo location search, and direct messaging — this creates the perfect pre requisite for a successful dating app. Something Instagram is steadily morphing into. With this in mind, it would be silly to pass up on this gravy train of opportunity and not milk Instagram dry of the womanly juices you can gain from it.
So read on to discover 7 reasons why Instagram can seriously improve your dating life and get you meet ups with girls IRL. Girls want a glimpse of the real you even though Instagram can be pretty fake at the best of times.
So if you give users the option to snoop your IG your chances of matching are far greater. This can largely be down to one or two things: Often used as a backup option if you fail to get a match, this forward approach to picking up girls from Tinder does occasionally work.
However this semi-stalkerish tactic is becoming harder and harder to pull off. Making it trickier business to hunt these girls down. However, you can still find some diamonds in the rough. This method should yield her IG handle in the search results.
Instead, like a few of her photos first, then wait it out 24 hours before shamelessly sliding into her DMs. This figure is a good barometer of social proof. A high follower count will grab her attention. So naturally, the more followers you have the better.
It can be easily manipulated. You can turn your Billy no mates figure into celebrity status overnight. There are dozens of follow bots on the interwebs at your disposal. I did exactly that to boost my measly followers into 1, overnight. You can also buy likes for feed posts, and install crafty bots to auto follow users and get natural followers in return. So there are many shortcuts available to boost your social proof and make you more attractive to the girls who find you on the Gram.
From a dating perspective, there are so many flaws to this impractical and antiquated form of contact exchange.
Two reasons: Number exchanges are intrusive af. Exchanging telephone numbers is somewhat a breach of your privacy. You run the risk of exchanging numbers with a psycho who would consider leaving missed calls to be acceptable behaviour. Because of this, girls are more reluctant to hand over their digits.
It creates a higher barrier to entry and a bigger commitment than an IG follow. So unless you make an awesome first impression, expect a girl to give you a fake number, or just straight up reject you.
Girls love the prospect of a new Insta follower to bump their numbers. Especially wannabe influencers… So this makes Instagram exchanges an easy sell over a number exchange. Sorry, I couldn't resist. Instagram, meet bae. Bae, meet Instagram. Just hanging out with the person who makes me truly happy, NBD.
Here is the first of many embarrassing photos that I will definitely delete immediately if we break up. Making memories with you, is my favorite thing to do. Damn, we look good together. Introducing my ride-or-die, partner in crime, and true love. Nothing to see here, just a couple of weirdos in love. This one right here?
Yeah, they're all mine. And so it begins…