Dec 15, · 3 Ways To Stop Over-Analyzing Your New Relationships Like A Crazy Person. In the beginning stages of a new relationship, it can be so hard to not go over everything repeatedly in a vain attempt to either gain control or divine the future. Your decisions about Author: Elizabeth Stone. Feb 22, · As women, we overthink everything. While men can be complex creatures when it comes to most things in life, sometimes they give us the simple answers that we need. The problem is we as women, over-analyze it to the point that we lose our minds. Women tend to dissect and pick apart the most minuscule.
Ginger B As women, we overthink everything. While men can be complex creatures when it comes to most things in life, sometimes they give us the simple answers that we need.
The problem is we as women, over-analyze it to the point that we lose our minds. Women tend to dissect and pick apart the most minuscule moments, hoping to figure out what a man is thinking when it comes to a relationship when sometimes the answer is right in front of us. It is hard to believe that men can be simple with their feelings. By simple, I mean in the lack of action they give towards us gives us the answers that we need.
Women tend to be optimistic when it comes to the male species and make excuses for their shortcomings. Rather than to see what is right in front of us, we choose to create our own reality of what is happening. And with that, we have created this over-analyzing pattern that we continue to create with every man and in every relationship. The over thinking has got to end! Here are some basic tips to understanding the male species no micro-analysis required: No call means he is not thinking about you.
If he is interested in you, he will call. No questions ask. His phone was not stolen by a pack of wild gorillas charging through the city. He was not recruited by Liam Neeson and assisting him in the filming of Taken 4.
If he wanted to contact you, nothing would stop him from doing so. No invitations means he is not interest. If he is not asking you out, he is not interested in being with you.
He is not too busy with his investments in the Nutella industry. He was not hit by a flying vehicle and knocked unconscious. By him not inviting you to hang out with him, he is not interested in taking this relationship any further.
No invitation other than the bedroom means he wants nothing other than in the bedroom. A strenuous yoga session in bed. A vigorous game of Twister in the bedroom. Point blank, he would like to make you his booty call and keep it that way. This is not the Bachelor. When it comes down to it, if a guy is not making time for you other than in the bedroom, he never will. No answer is an answer. If he is finding a way to avoid answering the question that you are asking, he is avoiding giving you the answer that you do not want to hear.
It is , his Iphone did not not receive the message, voicemail and email you sent. He does not suffer from short term memory loss every time you ask him the question. If he is not answering, he is just choosing to avoid the topic at hand. Thus, he will play dumb and avoid the question at all costs. While men may be complex creatures when it comes to life, they can be simple when it comes to showing their interest in you.
We as women, need to stop overthinking it. Rather than making excuses and being optimistic towards the situation, we need to see what is right in front of us. Ladies, keep your eyes open, trust your instincts and stop over thinking it!
You may be wondering if they want to see you again; if they were upset by something that happened on one of your dates or if you offended them by something you said. If in doubt the best thing to do is ask. If your head is still obsessing try some of the suggestions below. Get active Because over analysing is often the result of an idle mind one of the best ways to counteract it is to get busy with your body. Taking part in a physical activity when you are tempted to return repeatedly to an issue can help break the thought pattern.
Exercise will not only help clear your mind but will also raise the level of endorphins pumping through your body. Your mood will be enhanced and because your attention has been distracted for a period it can help break the process.
According to research a half hour brisk walk can be as beneficial as an hour of therapy. Let go Sometimes we get into an over analysing pattern because there is a situation we need to address and we are looking for a solution.
Analysis sucks the fun out of your relationship. Whether this person you've been on a date with turns out to be "The One" or not, analyzing whether he is going to call, if he really likes you , or what he meant when he held the fork that way, takes a certain magic away from the whole thing. If your date turns into "The One," wouldn't you rather remember the butterflies in your stomach and what cute things he said on the date, instead of the two hour conversation you had with your best friend about it later?
That's why it's time to take action and stop over-analyzing your new relationship: Quit searching for hidden meanings. He either likes you or he doesn't. It will all be revealed in time. Most likely, there is no hidden meaning to the little things that happen.
Putting yourself in an emotional place where you are hanging on what they are doing and saying doesn't change the outcome and can cause you to create a problem where there wasn't one before. Stop over-sharing with your friends. Without any input, it's easier to have no opinion at all about what happened on your date, which can help you keep you from over-analyzing things.
Try to avoid writing about how you feel and instead be as objective as possible. People laugh all the time. By the way, I find that spending a bit more money on a nicer quality notebook motivates me to actually write it in more often. Talk to yourself I love talking to myself. Always have and always will. One of my dorkier techniques for dealing with overthinking is to have a verbal conversation with myself. In fact, I wrote about cheering yourself up by talking to yourself exactly a year ago!
Be silly with yourself. You insecure little boy. Poke fun at yourself at your own expense. Relax Gah!